Sunday, November 14, 2010

"People are Lonely because they Build WALLS... instead of B R I D G E S" ~Joseph F. Newton

We all have walls we build for ourselves called our identity, ego, self image, reputation, persona etc...but those walls become prison walls trapping the real YOU inside if you do not build bridges to let yourself out, and more importantly, let others in...

So many of my family and friends live lives of pain, and suffering, tolerating their lives and enduring the pain every day because they spend all their time building up that wall and not sparing anytime or neglecting time to build what is equally if not more important, their bridges.

What builds our bridges is the love we share with those around us, the love we receive, the love in our hearts and in our actions towards others continuously and unconditionally.  It is the love we feel towards our children, family, friends, communities, and the world we live in.  Every time we love someone, we build and strengthen the bridge from our wall to theirs.  The more we build our bridge and send out our love unconditionally, the more those bridges will strengthen, and the more the love will come back.

Connecting deeply with others, being a friend, caring for a child, living and loving your life daily, are all ways we build the bridge that will set us free, free from the walls that keep us inside, trapped, feeling all the unnecessary pain, that by loving and feeling the love, takes away.

So if you're feeling lonely, stop focusing on your Wall, your self, your problems, your pains, your mistakes, and simply put, You.  Focus on building your bridge by loving and accepting yourself, then your children, your family, friends, all the people in your life, your partners, your neighbors, and your world daily, and keep in mind that the greater your wall, the greater your bridge will need to be.

So start today by taking the time to send out some love, even if it's just a word, nice thought, friendly gesture, a positive quote, feedback, or comment, on Facebook, via email, twitter, phone, in person, in every form, in every way, and ideally in everything you say and do.  Because in love as in life, every thing counts, and is never a waste of time.

So let me start by saying I love you my family, my friends, supporters, and readers, not because you are reading my blog, but I love you because you are my bridge, without you my life would be lonely, and would cease to exist.  Thank you deeply with all my heart for being in my life, circle, world, today, tomorrow, and hopefully, always...

In Love, Light, and Luxury,

James Pham
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Friday, November 12, 2010

‎"You are What you Choose Today, NOT What You've Chosen Before!" ~Wayne Dyer

This is a great quote in theory but in reality, so few of us can truly master this.  Why? Because we allow our past to ruin our lives, our futures, our ability to choose today who we can and do become tomorrow.  I've touched on this topic in previous blogs but for me this is the corner stone and foundation to what we believe is the the American Dream.  To BECOME whoever we set out to BE based on our freedom to choose in this country is what sets us apart from probably most of the world.  Although, all individuals have that right whether or not the country/government allows them to or not! : )

We are such creatures of habit relying on our past to dictate our future, and although who you are today is based on who you were before.  Who you are tomorrow is based on who you choose to be today. Does that make sense!? Of course it does, but it's just so much easier for most people to do the same old thing, be the same old person, and choose the same old things as before, when clearly they want and need to change!  Not change themselves into someone they don't want to be, but the change that needs and must take place to truly BE who we choose, want, and need to be for ourselves and the world around us.

For example, let's say before you had kids, you were a young, carefree, always about me personality, who never liked children, in fact didn't even know why people had them...and I'm not talking about myself, although I do know someone close to me who was that way... : )  Then you had kids, well, sorry, but that type of person is not going to work with kids, and you know it. So everyday when you wake up and the kids are still in your life, you have to make that conscious choice every day to be a better, happier, more fun, loving, caring, selfless, and not just about you, personality you've chosen over and over again in the past.  Otherwise, you suffer, your kids suffer, your family, friends, and everyone and everything around you does as well... ; )

You're life as you know it will not work with your new life today.  Oh yes, you can cling on to your dear old life, but let me tell you, the sooner you let go and let God, oops I mean, you change your life based on your new choice, the better everyone will be and of course, the result will be a happier, more free, and everything you wanted, need to, and will be YOU.  Remember choosing who you are today, doesn't mean choosing someone that you don't want to be, but it's choosing to BE a better, more improved, happier, hopefully more loving, caring, supportive, fun, rich, free, secure, and everything else you decide to choose to be today for you tomorrow!!! That's all.

In Love, Light, & Luxury,

James Pham
EnlighTea Cafe : )

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response. ~ Mildred Barthel

So are you happy? But the real question is do you truly desire, want and more importantly, choose to be happy? Most people don't.  They think that if they automatically respond to others in a happy way they are happy; and although a little bit of happiness does come from this, long term long lasting happiness always comes from making a conscious choice every single day or at least, constantly and consistently in our lives...this is the only security to being and having a truly happy life.

The other way always depends and changes like the tide upon current circumstances, other people, places and things, always outside of ourselves, out of our control. Consciously choosing to be happy puts all the control, power, and creation back into our own hands and allows us to BE it always through the ups and downs, good times and bad times, till death do you part. Sounds like marriage right? Well, exactly, marriage is the same way, a conscious choice and commitment to being together ideally to the end as well. So what's the point, I guess the point is stop relying on others for your happiness, and start relying on yourself to get it, have it, choose it for you, today, tomorrow, always, then watch and see how much more greater your life turns out to be!

I'm recommitting and consciously choosing to BE HAPPY right now for me. How about you, what do you choose? If you're serious, leave me a comment of your personal declaration to consciously choose to be happy today!  Oh, and BTW, our choice to be personally happy will not only benefit you, but everyone else in your life as well. But don't worry about everybody else right now, worry about you and make it your conscious choice to be happy today!

In Love, Light, and Luxury,

James Pham : )